Classic Wedding

Stylist Ilaria Urbinati Wore an Endless Lace Train for Her Classic New England Wedding

They stumbled upon their reception location, a cozy, antique-filled restaurant called 1928, while taking a midnight stroll through the city. “We looked in the window and fell instantly in love with it, but it was closed,” recalls Ilaria. “We knocked, and the owner happened to be there and let us in. We booked it right then and there for the wedding.”

Ilaria always knew Dolce & Gabbana would design her dress. She had a close working relationship with the fashion house, frequently collaborating with them for red carpet clients and even styling some of their men’s runway shows. Then, there was the personal aspect: “I’m from Rome so I wanted to wear an Italian brand,” she says. “I knew they would put the most thought and care into our outfits because they are like family to us.”

Originally, she thought she wanted something subdued due to the small size of their wedding. Yet Dolce & Gabbana had other ideas. They instead sent her a sketch of “an enormous dress with an enormous train,” Ilaria says. “This is embarrassing—I actually cried the first time I put it on. It just made me feel like a real bride, and I was so happy I didn’t go with a modern little cocktail dress.” They also custom-designed Johnny’s suit, which took style cues from Al Pacino The Godfatheras well as the outfits for the couple’s three young children, Lilou, Leopold, and Wylde.

Dolce & Gabbana sent her videos of the seamstresses in Milan sewing her train, and head menswear designer Piergiorgio Meschini flew from Milan to oversee the family’s final fitting. “Who does that? It was amazing,” says Ilaria. She paired it all with a pair of blue lace shoes and David Yurman earrings. For her guests, she made an “attire mood board” which included photos of old Fellini films as well Breakfast at Tiffany’s and Ali MacGraw and Ryan O’Neal in Love Story. Although she opted not to have a formal bridal party, she asked her nearest and dearest to wear black and white. “It sounds funeral-y but I thought it was chic,” she says. “I didn’t want bridal colors.”

On October 15, she walked down the aisle while three students from the Berklee School of Music sang “Moon River,” accompanied by a quintet from the Boston String Ensemble. Ilaria chose not to hold a bouquet—nor, indeed, the arm of another. “I made a decision not to have anyone walk me down, as I suddenly was hit with this very modern desire to give my own self away,” she says. “I remember halfway down the aisle I reached out and squeezed my friend’s hand and smiled at her, and just saying hi and greeting my friends and family as I walked down—which I know isn’t really a thing you’re supposed to do as you walk down the aisle—reminded me to stay present and to take it all in.”